HOW TO DEFUSE THE BOMB WITHIN YOU

When you are in a pressure-cooker and you can't do anything about the situation, you are going to go to blogger.com, login to your account, resist to dedicate a blog to complain about insolents and idiots, and guide your neurons to spark on other subjects such as ...

HOW TO DEFUSE THE BOMB WITHIN YOU
(1) Don't reply to the fire sparker
When you see red, you don't open your mouth or else... hopefully (but highly doubtful) the recipient won't see red or both will be so red, we both will look like squashed tomatoes.


(2) Force a laugh
The moment you force a laugh, it's like you are pouring water on the fire. It makes you look so silly, your self-righteous fire is immediately sizzled cause no one else hurts your pride more at the moment than yourself when you laugh like a maniac.


(3) Listen to soothing music
Okay, time to open my Winamp for my .... WHAT?! My Jazz folder is deleted?! *SCREAMS*
Hahhaa, kidding, I needed the diversion okay?


(4) Blog about something else
Like what I'm doing now... and give your best while you are at it.


(5) Get a pet dog
I miss Jinn!!! Sigh, but it's true. Who is better to help you go through pressure time but a man's best friend? The moment you see their puppy eyes gazing into your soul, your stone-cold heart will break and sizzles.


(6) Eat
For some people, they are usually edgy when they are hungry. Eat something, get yourself filled so you can think better.

(7) Sleep
Heard of the famous phrase "I'll sleep on it"? A tried and tested method used by many famous people when they are confused. And when they wake up the next day, EUREKA! Or at least, they get to let their fuming feelings sizzle off over a length of time.


(8) Watch a comedy movie
Definitely a must if you have the time and your workplace allows it. Something to tickle your funny spleen. If anything were to be released, and if I can have a choice over it, why not release our laughter that bundle our burdens also? 

(9) Don't answer the evil phone
Seriously, I hate phones. They are loud, annoying, and attention-seeking. And at most time, phone calls usually require you to do something or to listen to someone's complaints. 


(10) Let go and let God
A famous phrase used by Pr Kenneth to sum up a God-focus lifestyle. 
Is it true? Yes. 
Does it work? Yes. 


When you let go, you don't hold on to something that gives your agitation system a kick and well, you let go of your pent up energy. 


And when you let God, you know your situation is being taken care of and that gives you hope over your situation. Does it really work? Yes. 


A moment ago I was already stressed and a supplier had to give me a call to challenge on certain issues. After the phone call, I was irked but I just prayed a quick one and moved on. Moments later, she called back and said it was settled. This is just one of God's tricks. 




Hm... this helps a little. I am mad but not as mad as seconds ago cause my energy is being diverted to something else other than the bomb.


:) cheers!

What am I drinking?

Going through a crazy week and as usual, after a long mundane task, I allow my mind to wander to this ranch of mine. One random thought that stimulates millions of my neurons was "I don't drink and yet I drink a lot, imagine if I drink, how much will I drink?"

Right now, I am pumping in a power drink to keep me going, a change from my usual Nescafe Kao Kao. Btw, I am not a true coffee addict since I love my cup sweet. But a good colleague once commented that I drink my coffee as if I am drinking beer.

Anyhow, I was thinking, if it wasn't for my parents' teachings, my distaste for loss of control, and meeting Jesus, I think I will be a full-time drinker since I don't like plain water.

But then again...maybe not since I don't need beer to make me intoxicated.

Ok, signing off, back to work.

Help! My lines were written by a bad script!

Exactly that.

Watching 13 going 30 and a few other movies, I always wonder how these people get to say the awesomest lines again and again for 2 hours while I can't even hold my sentence for longer than 5 minutes?

There is a conspiracy going around that we are living in a movie of our own lives. If that is true, I love the Director, the Producer, the casts but I think they need to fire the scriptwriter! I can't even spun a proper intelligent sentence without sounding like Moose from Archie that goes around with "Duuuhhhhh.....".

Could it be that people who has great wit actually expose themselves to lots of things and learn them really fast? For example, Tracy! She is like a spinning gasing the moment she opens her mouth AND AND the cool thing is, nothing comes out wrong from her lips. Or at least, she covers them fast enough!

Iwanttospeakfaster, thinkfaster, repelbuttjokesfaster, coverupfaster, understandcornyjokesfaster, catchthesituationfaster, befaster, Iwantanewscriptwriter, IWANT TO BE MY OWN SCRIPTWRITER!

Gah! There! I said it!

Introducing the Kermits!

Last night, Ping and I met up at Ikea/Ikano after a long, long time. Although we attended the same church, are in the same ministry, communicate every other week, it is really different. On most occasion, we are "on the job" mode. So last night, it was a break for the two of us.

What do two childhood friends do when they hang out?

They bought hermit kermit crabs on impulse!

I got 4 of these crustaceans to replace 4 colleagues who left me for the Upper Room (they shifted to the 8th floor).

So let me introduce to you my new friends!
From left, Tank, Keet, Joy, and Peng.

Tank is called as such because his her it's shell is really heavy so it doesn't move a lot for this reason.

Keet has a big bum bum (much like it's human counterpart). Whenever it tries to hide in its shell, its bum bum will take up all the space that it couldn't bury itself in its own home.

Joy can't sit still. Almost a replica to its human counterpart.

Peng reacts to things really slowly. It's like it doesn't bother with its surroundings, again, much like its human counterpart.

My first lesson of keeping kermit crabs is DON'T PUT THEM IN A PLASTIC FOOD CONTAINER!
*Sigh*, I thought they would be easy to handle. Oh well, time to dig my pockets and shop for a nice aquarium.

7 tips to a more confident self

Don't we admire people who can carry themselves well? Someone who is not afraid to be themselves, not afraid to say what they think, not afraid to speak up, not afraid to be wrong, in fact, they seemed practically fearless. You can either admire these people from afar or learn from them and work on your own life.

I was not the most confident person in the world. In fact, insecurity was part of my life that it dictates how I should live, which is really sad since insecurity just keeps you caged up inside - afraid to experience the unfamiliar. Although I have conquered some parts of my insecurities, I will not say I am 100% confident. Like many who are finding ways to improve themselves, I have many rooms to work on. My colleagues/friends can testify this passionately especially on how I will grovel to the most intimidating character. Although I beg to differ, there is some *ahem* truth in it.

But, that shouldn't stop us from growing, yup?

So here's what I have picked up about building your self-esteem:
#1: Get to know yourself

Having a better self-awareness helps you to understand your feelings in different situations. A lot of times, I was unable to function because I wasn't able to process what were the uncomfortable feelings that spiral within when someone made a sarcastic remark. By then, I would go into my default mode of cowering. But if you are able to understand yourself better, when weird situation hits home, you are able to acknowledge your emotions and take control of your own mind and respond accordingly.

Recommended to get a journal to pen your self-discovery. Make a list of your strength and weakness. No matter how small you think your strength is, write it. Be specific. Do not generalize things because you want to understand yourself at this point.

#2: Know your worth
The mental battle
Low self-esteem people are known to bash themselves a lot, which explains their moodiness and depression. You don't have to do that anymore. You have a choice to stop. Every time your mind tells you that you are worthless, the lousiest sh*t in the world, the freak, a monster, you can consciously tell that evil voice these...
    A: I am a beautiful creation of God. I am not an accident.
    B: No. I will not believe the lies.
    C: I am worth much, much more. (Find out why from your Christian friend)
    D: I don't have to be a loser.

#3: Develop yourself
After doing a personal journal on yourself, you have an idea what're your weaknesses and strength. Look at which areas that you want to improve. At first sight, it may look like an overwhelming task to work on so many areas of your life but put that feeling of dread aside. You don't have to do it all at once! One thing at a time. If you can even overcome one area of your life, you are already an overcomer! No one in this world has got it all, so don't worry about not being good enough. I cannot give a solution here cause everyone works differently. For every problem, find out ways suited to your learning to overcome it (google or friends/family are great places to start).

#4: Grow your skills

This goes hand-in-hand with #3 but when I said grow your skills, I meant hobbies, things of interest. If you like to sing, find ways to get better at it. If you don't have a hobby, get one! Even if you do have a hobby, no harm learning new stuff.






#5: Surround yourself with positive people

Try to look out for people who have a positive outlook at life. There is an old saying that goes "You are who your friends are". If you want to be confident, hang out with confident people. Whether you realize it or not, you will be picking up the thought process of the people around you.


#6: Feed yourself with positive "bread"
Ever notice how depressed you are after series of soap operas? Or how happy you are listening to a happy song? You are what you eat. The same goes with you are what you read/see. So choose your reading materials/ movies/ music carefully, you want to develop yourself and not bring yourself to depression. I am not saying you should refrain yourself like a monk - Just be aware of what you are inputing into your world.

#7: Learn to laugh at yourself
While you are living life and developing your confidence, it won't be an easy journey but who said it has to be dark and gloomy? It's okay to laugh at yourself! Don't take yourself too seriously - have fun. Learn to laugh at yourself. It doesn't mean you are devaluing yourself but in fact quite the opposite. Humour helps you through sticky situation, seriously! Like how I often come up with the lamest joke and when no one gets it, I will admit defeat and declare it as not funny (somehow, this always got others laughing)


I believe there's so much to learn from personal development (especially on the confidence part), feel free to share your thoughts on this. While you are at it, you can read this down-to-earth guide to developing self worth: http://www.stevenaitchison.co.uk/blog/2009/06/02/29-ways-to-increase-your-feeling-of-self-worth/


- pamchoo
p/s: Just a note, it really helps to have the God by my side as I learn to grow out of my insecurities.